Do the Young Generation Need Funeral Etiquette Classes ?

Recently, actor Rishi Kapoor lashed out the new generation of so called stars for not attending funeral of veteran actor-politician Vinod Khanna and led to awakening of our consciousness.

Are we still living in times, when even parents don't impose their 'do's and don't's' on their own kids?

CAN YOU MAKE OTHERS FEEL THE WAY YOU FEEL?

If you touch others' hearts by your emotional chords and they also feel the same, then it's different. But otherwise, can you really make others - even your parents, siblings, spouse, children or in that matter anybody who is very close to you, believe in your ideologies and emotions?

Everyone's  emotions and beliefs are personal.

Here, I share my personal experience about someone's funeral -  Sometimes back, one of my neighbor had an accident while he was returning from his morning walk and collapsed on road.

He was such a gentleman, noble and good nature person and dedicated to his work. His family (wife, daughter and son) kept to themselves as he left for work early mornings and used to return late. So, not much interactions with others. The family kept to themselves and hardly mingled with anybody. 

Now, considering the good person he was - it was expected that there would be a decent gathering but there were just handful of people!

Neighbors extended shoulder to his pyre that also out of obligation because nobody really felt anything for the family or for the person. 

When we live, we need to gain our ground. Can we command others to respect us ? Can we order our children or relatives to visit us often, when we are constantly whining?

Bees come to honey uninvited. 

It was overwhelming that many young generations' so called stars showed their concern and some of them visited hospital when veteran actor-politician Vinod Khanna was in hospital. It was the time, when he needed someone's concern most! 

When he has gone he does not need you, you visit for your own purposes not for showing respect!

ACCEPT IT ! THIS WORLD GOES ON THE LAW OF GIVE AND TAKE!

Love and respect still prevails in some noble hearts, there is no doubt about it. But accept it that we cannot take a single breathe if we don't give one back.

There was an old joke circulating on Whatsapp sometime back, that YOUNG PEOPLE ATTEND THE WEDDINGS AND OLD PEOPLE ATTEND THE FUNERALS - BECAUSE IF THEY DON'T ATTEND OTHERS'

WHO WOULD ATTEND THEIRS?

If you are not driven by your strong emotions, you evaluate the pros and cons of a situation to make the most of it.

If you have to do something, your mind devises one reason to do it and you DO IT ! 

But if you don't want to do something, your mind devises thousand reasons to not do it. 

Simple!

YOU WORKED WITH THEM, STILL YOU DIDN'T ATTEND THE FUNERAL!!!

When you work professionally, your equation with each member of the team is different. Your heart may have different compartments for each of them or none for some.

Can you force someone to respect others the way you do? Even if you hate your boss, can you refuse his dog's birthday party arrangements?

And even if you love your wife, can your leave a last minute urgent presentation to celebrate your wife's birthday?

CHAMCHA word is too strong a word sometimes when others might have been under pressure for different reasons to behave the way they did.

HOW THIS WORLD HAD BEEN IF ALL OF US WOULD HAVE BEEN ALIKE?

Long ago, I read a story about a Nomad group which was shifting it's place. Each night two men had to stay awake at night to keep a vigil.

One night, a young man and his father had their night vigil duty. 

He got up with his father and stayed alert. After a few hours, he started feeling so egoistic and proud and commented on other people -

HOW LAZY THE OTHERS WERE, THAT THEY WERE SLEEPING, WHEREAS THIS YOUNG MAN WAS SO ALERT FOR THEM.

His father smiled and replied that the other nights they also did their duties as required. 

If you were doing something, that was fine but if you point fingers on others and whine, then your efforts go down the drain. The father advised son not to wake up for night vigil if he had to get up to whine and crib that others were sleeping.