Do You Wish To Settle Your Children Abroad or Stay With You?

By Dimple

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It was a tea time discussion among us, when one of our senior doctor colleague started a new thread. 


She was getting a mixed bout of feelings when she shared her thoughts with us. 





These thoughts were further evoked brain storming when I visited many villages and small towns of Rajasthan and found that this is something which really needed our attention.


DO WE WISH OUR KIDS TO STAY WITH US OR SETTLE ABROAD ?


Her daughter was getting a scholarship to Singapore and she was supposed to join the said institution after her studies, that meant that her daughter would be gone out of her sweet home for about a decade, if not less!


Now, my colleague feared that once her daughter would be out of this country, she might never return to her as most of the young generation kids do.


We laughed and consoled her that being so educated, independent and liberal person, how could she refrain her kid to make decision for her life?


HER ANSWER FURTHER STARTLED US ...


Her theory was - that humans reproduce to increase their population so that the young ones could take care of them in old age. If in the name of liberalization and modernity we send our children to other countries, they are not much good to their own country or their parents. 


So, we are as good without children then bearing the pains of raising them and then sending them away forever, as if they never existed!


I don't know if my doctor colleague was right or wrong because she is on a very senior, authoritative position, where she uses her intellect to show her prowess but my experience has been otherwise.


NO BIRD OR ANIMAL OR ANY OTHER SPECIES CAGE THEIR YOUNG ONES, THEN WHY SHOULD HUMANS?


When my daughter was born and was barely two days old; my cousin came to invite me for her wedding. 


Oh! I started crying. 


And now as I tell you that reason was damn stupid! I feared that my daughter would leave me too, when she grows up!


Whereas my mother never cling to any of her six children. She loved all but she never tried to tie us - emotionally or verbally.


I feel when we let go without attachment and pain, our energies flow. It does not stagnate. 


Whereas, if we cling to our kids as emotional succor - it's neither healthy for us or for their growth! 

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